It speaks to our inner knowledge that only love is real.  Why would we want to be anything but real and thus, loving, to the children in our lives – or anyone else for that matter?   And who else can teach them to love but those who are willing to make it real?  We need the right tools.

In multitudinous ways we all battle with insistent negative thoughts, beliefs and conditioning based upon our stories of victims and victimizers.  We desire to be free of our feelings of fear, anxiety, unhappiness, isolation, loneliness separation and differences.  These challenges we know well enough.  How to compassionately help children through this seeming complexity becomes the task.  The task, thanks to the authors, is made gentler and easier through application of the methods discussed in this book.

In the process of helping children through their beliefs of vulnerability and the fear and terror that accompanies these beliefs, we face and choose to go beyond our own fears, providing a model of a choice for love, a guidance for children unsure of and unaware of, the ability to make this choice for themselves too.  We take the opportunity to heal our minds and theirs simultaneously.  It’s a win win situation for everyone.

For anyone looking to move from relationships with children based on the imprisonment of fear, judgment, criticism, control and conflict, to relationships base on love, acceptance, understanding, non-judgment and peace, this book will serve as a welcome guide to miraculous rewards.  Rather than a rule book for specific behaviors or words, it is a guiding light that can be generalized and applied to each circumstance that arises, teaching a change in perception and thinking – from a mindset of fear, to a mindset of love.  It demonstrates the rewards realized as fear is replaced with love – presenting the appropriate loving thoughts and actions that flow and follow from this consciously made decision.   It demonstrates how the mind that relinquishes itself from interpretations stemming from fear and all its myriad expressions (anger, blame, upset, worry, anxiety, hostility, lying, stealing, condemnation, etc.) is free to embrace a perspective based now on love and all its myriad expressions (forgiveness, calm, peace, honesty, sharing, compassion, empathy, understanding, happiness, etc.)

Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control provides tools that really work because it goes to the source of the problem.  Rather than focusing on changing behavior (by force, will, withholding love) it addresses the problem at its core – focusing on the thinking (cause) that is bringing about the behavior (effect). The authors clearly delineate this cause an effect relationship.  Establishing that what is perceived comes from thinking and beliefs, makes it possible to truly solve problems.  By connecting severe behavior to its cause, its origin- severely distorted fearful thinking- it addresses the problem where it is, in the mind, so that it can be solved.  It presents a new way of thinking, from a perspective of love, with clear and simple ways to apply this new way of thinking.  As the authors prove, “love” cannot, does not, “never, fails”.  By bringing to light the unconscious negativity, a conscious choice can be made against it – fear, and  for the only real choice – love.  This book is a must read for all parents and professionals looking to heal the suffering of countless children and their families across the globe.